am i emotionally mature enough?

I’ve been wondering, am i emotionally mature enough in my age? when you can solve your problem, think clearly everytime you feel under pressure, being patience, withholding emotions, accepting critics, giving other people grown-up advices and opinions and they take a deal with it, take responsibility of what you did…. could i call ‘em ‘mature actions’? i guess not.

like Roger Allen said on his website (do you know him? no? oh yeah me too, i just found his website on Google, though) he defines,

“Emotional maturity as the ability to make good, positive, healthy choices during the challenges of life.”

Emotional Immaturity

• Reactive (Life happens to me)
• Act out emotions
• Governed by habit
• Come from fear/scarcity
• “Have to” motivation
• Getting (self-centered)
• Seek security and self-protection
• Avoid failure, rejection, discomfort
• Separation/alienation from others
• Live in the past/future

 Emotional Maturity

• Proactive (I make choices)
• Act on emotions
• Governed by vision/purpose
• Come from love/abundance
• “Choose to” motivation
• Giving (other-centered)
• Step outside comfort zone
• Seek growth
• Unity/goodwill with others
• Live in the present

so how do you defines 'mature',  then?